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7 Ways to Raise Your “Goodness Quotient”

-Karthik Gurumurthy

Want to stand out in a world that’s increasingly rude, rushed, and self-centered? Commit to being genuinely good. Not fake-nice or people-pleasing—but authentically kind, honorable, and excellent in how you treat others. Here are 7 simple but powerful ways to raise your “Goodness Quotient” and become someone people genuinely respect and admire.

1) Be the Most Polite Person You Know

Politeness isn’t weakness—it’s strength under control. It’s treating everyone with dignity, regardless of their status or what they can do for you.

Say “please” and “thank you” like you mean it. Hold doors open. Let people finish their sentences. Treat the janitor with the same respect you’d give the CEO. Speak kindly to waiters, customer service reps, and everyone in between.

Here’s what most people miss: politeness costs you nothing but earns you everything. People remember how you make them feel. In a world where rudeness is becoming the norm, simple courtesy makes you unforgettable.

Make it your standard to be the most gracious, respectful person in any room. Watch how differently people respond to you.

2) Be Honest to a Fault

Your word is your bond. When you say something, mean it. When you commit to something, follow through. When you make a mistake, own it immediately.

Being honest to a fault means you tell the truth even when it’s uncomfortable. You don’t exaggerate your accomplishments. You don’t make excuses when you screw up. You don’t say what people want to hear—you say what’s true, delivered with kindness.

This level of integrity is rare, which makes it incredibly valuable. People can sense when someone is authentic versus when they’re playing games. When you build a reputation for absolute honesty, your credibility becomes unshakeable.

Yes, the truth might cost you in the short term sometimes. But in the long run? Your integrity will be your greatest asset. People trust you. They believe you. They want to work with you, do business with you, and be around you.

Make honesty your non-negotiable standard, and watch how it transforms your relationships and opportunities.

3) Become a World-Class Listener

Most people don’t listen—they just wait for their turn to talk. Be different.

When someone speaks to you, give them your full attention. Put down your phone. Make eye contact. Stop thinking about what you’re going to say next and actually hear what they’re saying. Listen not just to their words, but to what’s beneath the words—their emotions, their concerns, their hopes.

Ask thoughtful questions. Show genuine curiosity about their thoughts and experiences. Resist the urge to interrupt or one-up their story with your own.

Here’s what happens when you become an exceptional listener: people feel valued. They feel heard. They feel like they matter. And in a noisy world where everyone’s competing for attention, the person who truly listens stands out.

Great listeners learn more, build deeper relationships, and gain insights others miss. Commit to this skill—it’ll change everything.

4) Send Handwritten Thank You Notes Regularly

In a world of texts, emails, and quick DMs, a handwritten note is like gold.

Make it a habit: when someone helps you, teaches you something, gives you an opportunity, or simply does something kind—write them a note. Not an email. Not a text. An actual handwritten card or letter.

It doesn’t have to be long or fancy. Just genuine. “Thank you for taking time to meet with me. Your advice on [specific thing] really helped.” That’s it.

Here’s why this matters: handwritten notes show you cared enough to slow down. You invested time and thought. You made them feel appreciated in a tangible way. People keep these notes. They remember them. They remember you.

Buy some nice stationery and stamps. Keep them handy. Write one note a week minimum. Watch how this simple habit strengthens your relationships and opens unexpected doors.

5) Look for Opportunities to Do Random Acts of Kindness

Don’t wait for big moments to be kind—make kindness a daily practice.

Pay for the coffee of the person behind you in line. Leave an unexpectedly generous tip. Help someone carry their groceries. Give a sincere compliment to a stranger. Let someone merge in traffic. Pick up trash you didn’t drop. Donate to someone’s cause. Offer to help a colleague with a project.

The key word is “random”—these aren’t calculated moves for personal gain. They’re acts of pure generosity with no expectation of return.

Here’s the beautiful thing: kindness is contagious. When you do something kind, it ripples outward. That person you helped might help someone else. Your small act creates a chain reaction.

Plus, here’s the secret: being kind makes you happier. It shifts your focus from what you don’t have to what you can give. It connects you with your humanity. It reminds you that life isn’t just about you.

Make it a game: how many acts of kindness can you do this week? You’ll be amazed how it changes your perspective and your life.

6) Be the Most Positive and Passionate Person You Know

Your energy is contagious—make sure it’s worth catching.

Bring enthusiasm to everything you do. Be the person who lights up a room instead of draining it. Find the good in situations instead of automatically focusing on what’s wrong. Encourage others instead of complaining with them.

This doesn’t mean being fake or ignoring real problems. It means choosing to approach life with optimism and passion rather than cynicism and apathy.

When challenges come up—and they will—be the person who says “How can we solve this?” instead of “This is terrible.” When someone shares an idea, be the one who sees the potential, not just the obstacles.

People are drawn to positive, passionate individuals. They want to be around them, work with them, and follow them. Your energy influences everyone you encounter.

Make a decision: you’re going to be a source of light, not darkness. A source of energy, not drain. A source of possibility, not limitation.

7) Be Impeccable with Your Punctuality

Show up on time. Every time. No exceptions, no excuses.

Being on time is about respect. When you’re late, you’re essentially saying “My time is more valuable than yours.” When you’re consistently punctual, you’re saying “I respect you and I value our time together.”

Here’s the standard to set: don’t just be on time—be early. If a meeting starts at 2:00, be there at 1:55. If you’re meeting someone for coffee at 10:00, arrive at 9:55.

This applies to everything: meetings, deadlines, commitments, promises. If you say you’ll have something done by Friday, have it done by Thursday. If you commit to calling someone at 3:00, call at 3:00 sharp.

Punctuality builds trust. It shows you’re organized, disciplined, and reliable. These aren’t small things—they’re the foundation of your reputation.

Make this your non-negotiable standard. Set reminders. Build in buffer time. Whatever it takes. Your word and your presence should be absolutely dependable.


The Bottom Line

Your “Goodness Quotient” isn’t about being perfect—it’s about being intentional. It’s about choosing excellence in how you treat people and show up in the world.

These 7 practices might seem simple, but they’re incredibly powerful. They’ll set you apart in a world where basic decency and integrity are becoming rare.

Start today. Pick one or two of these and commit to them this week. Build them into habits. Then add more.

Because here’s the truth: success isn’t just about what you achieve—it’s about who you become in the process. And being genuinely good? That’s the foundation of a life well-lived.

Be the person others aspire to be. Raise your Goodness Quotient, and watch how it transforms not just your life, but the lives of everyone around you.

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